Is it Harder Being a Girl?
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October 19, 2021
Is it harder being a girl?
There has always been some kind of argument on whether men or women have it worse. This argument has been going on with everyone’s different opinions, but there really hasn’t been a conclusion that everyone could agree upon.
Personally, I believe that it is harder being a girl rather than being a guy. Even though both genders have their struggles, it is harder being a girl. I am not saying it is harder to be a girl because I am personally a girl but because there are more struggles that come with being a girl rather than a guy such as the menstrual cycle, childbearing/pregnancy and the sexualization toward women.
All girls and women have to transition into becoming a woman. Through this, girls will have their period every month for about 35-40 years of their life. That’s a long time! Then, after having their period for that long period of time, they have to go through menopause. With periods, girls experience many different symptoms such as irregular periods, heavy periods, painful periods, and acne. Although, there might be some argument about acne being something that girls struggle with as guys get acne too. But when it comes to girls getting acne when on their period, it isn’t exactly as controllable as other types of acne are such as the type of acne that men get. When guys get acne, it is often caused by sweat, stress or poor hygiene. However, when girls get acne as their menstrual cycle is happening, it is not controllable and can not be prevented.
Not only do women have to have their period for 35-40 years of their life, on top of that they also have to go through childbearing and pregnancy if they choose to have children. Through childbearing, many things can happen to a woman. With carrying a child for 9 months, it takes many different tolls on a woman’s body and mind. During childbirth, many women get torn and ripped apart whether it’s through vaginal birth or c-section. Along with being torn or ripped apart, women can develop body dysphoria or postpartum depression after giving birth to their child. Along with childbearing, women can have complications throughout their pregnancies such as Urinary Tract Infections (UTI), Mental Health Conditions (such as depression), Hypertension (High Blood Pressure), Diabetes, Obesity, Infections, and Hyperemesis Gravidarumexternal (morning sickness).
On top of this, women never get a break from sexualization from men and all the people around them. Sexualization happens within many different spaces and all over the world, whether it’s through social media, in magazines, or out in the real world. Wherever you go or whatever social media post or magazine you are reading, there is always some sort of sexualization towards women within it. Many female teens experience sexualization and body standards on a daily basis. Girls and women are always pressured into the idea that you have to be skinny and pretty to get a man’s attention, but when that is the deal, it isn’t always good attention that women get. Many women just get catcalled on the streets when they are minding their own business. Personally, I know people that have been catcalled when they were minding their own business trying to avoid getting a man’s attention. The sexualization towards many women and young girls can lead to mental health issues too. The moral of the story is that sexualization is everywhere and women put up with it every day. Although some people may argue that sexualization also happens to men, it’s not nearly as often as it is when it is happening towards women.
Overall women have it harder than men. Women go through many different changes with their bodies that impact them on a daily basis. Although there may be arguments that men have it hard, women definitely have it harder.
Suzie • Jan 23, 2024 at 11:51 am
YES YES YES!!!!!!
Michelle • Sep 12, 2023 at 12:37 pm
I think women have it harder for sure. Periods, pregnancy, and if your a poor woman of color raised i without a father you have a lot of struggles like poverty and racism to deal with too. Men seem to have issues that are self inflicted where as poor women are born with these problems. Rich attractive women born with good families have life alot easier then poor unattractive women raised in broken homes . Periods are horrible,.it’s horrible they come every month for 40 years. Like you never get a break. To me it’s the worst experience of being a female. . To men are.lucky and have life easier I tell my husband this when he is crying for no reason, looking for sympathy when he deserves none. Like once In the last 12 years his stomach aches. He cries, like my stomach aches 1-2 weeks every month of my life. In relationship my husband has many suitors, had many girlfriends, had fun with them. As a woman it’s way harder to find a man than a.man to find women. My husband has no problem getting women, and he was 400 lbs 5’6 no job , homeless and had tons of women trying to get with him. Me only like 2 men have ever tried to date me my entire life. Even look at celebrities at concerts male singers will have tons of groupies just waiting to throw themselves at him. Female singers don’t have that! No men are waiting to throw themselves at women, women have to go out the way just to get a mans attention. My husband and dad got to party alot and club alot. They got to have fun so they say… I didn’t my entire life I’m stuck at home cleaning and watching kids first my younger siblings then my own kids. Which I love to do just pointing out how men have it easier. They can go party , hang out with friends but women who are good moms are going to be at home with the kids. I could go on and on but yes men have it easier, but I’m glad I’m a woman because despite the neverending pain I love being a woman.
Gaven Drew • Oct 24, 2023 at 3:16 pm
(a man here) racism happens to men also. “and if you’re a poor woman of color raised without a father you have a lot of struggles like poverty and racism to deal with too. Men seem to have issues that are self-inflicted whereas poor women are born with these problems.” racism towards men aren’t self inflicted, same as poverty and not having a father, its not just issue for women.
“Rich attractive women born with good families have life a lot easier then poor unattractive women raised in broken homes.” again, same can be said for men.
“Periods are horrible,.it’s horrible they come every month for 40 years. Like you never get a break. To me it’s the worst experience of being a female. . To men are.lucky and have life easier I tell my husband this when he is crying for no reason, looking for sympathy when he deserves none. Like once In the last 12 years his stomach aches. He cries, like my stomach aches 1-2 weeks every month of my life.” being punched in the balls hurts but can’t be compared to periods. But when your husband cries “for no reason” you tell him women have it worse. what a fucking bitch, he is currently crying means he is probably sad (maybe dealing with you). And “that he is just seeking for sympathy when he deserves none” It’s just retarded that you say that, everyone deserves love and sympathy (excluding you).
“Men throw themselves at women, but women don’t” implying that we are whores, i am not denying that some men do this because their are, it’s the fact that as you said “men do this, but women don’t” and the fact that some women do the same fucking thing.
“My husband and dad got to party a lot and club a lot. They got to have fun so they say… I didn’t my entire life I’m stuck at home cleaning and watching kids first my younger siblings then my own kids. Which I love to do just pointing out how men have it easier. They can go party , hang out with friends but women who are good moms are going to be at home with the kids.” The fact that you could get a babysitter to watch your kids and go out, but no.
Vishnu k • Jan 29, 2024 at 4:36 am
Thats just sexist. Your husband deserve way more sympathy. Just because you go through periods isnt Mens fault. Also norah vincent who was a feminist even said that Men have it harder than woman. Youre just being sexist and i feel sorry for your husband to be with you. Your Husband deserves someone better than you. Enough projecting your hate on Husband. No moms are forced to babysit and there are many Fathers that babysit better than Moms. Youre not a Man. You dont understand that. Just because Men dont go through periods doesnt mean that they have easier. Social pressure is harder on Men. Enough with your sexist bullshit.
Camille • Dec 23, 2023 at 9:19 pm
We never get a break from being judged by our looks! Tiring and boring. Always on a diet or craving sweets when our periods come around. Men can eat a meal at McDonald’s and not worry about the scale the next day!;also we don’t make as much money and aren’t as strong!
Vishnu k • Jan 29, 2024 at 4:43 am
Michelle youre just projecting your hatred and nothing else. Just because you go through periods doesnt mean Men have it easy. Youre not a Man. So you shouldnt make thay dirty feminist sexist claim. Men have it harder when it comes to social pressure. Just because media dont show this doesnt mean they dont. And Men dont have it easy. A Man need to build his value to gain respect. Everything you said is actually given concern by society. Men are still expected to provide and no appreciation for him. Just because Men dont complain doesnt mean He have it easy. Your body isnt Mens fault. And Men are also the ones providing for the society. Your Husband deserves someone better than you. Youre just a typical dirty feminist nothing else. No Man is gonna say women have it easy. You just have a typical dirty victimhood nothing else.
katrtina • Aug 26, 2023 at 12:24 pm
I think that this is a very serious debate. One other thing you have take into consideration is the lots of women are afraid to go outside in the public alone without anyone the know by there side. Where men can feel confident going almost anywhere they want without feeling completely unsafe (most of the time). I think that the side are so split because men know what is difficult for men, where women know what if difficult for women. That is why you see people in the comments saying “as a women myself, women definetally have it harder” or men arguing with this amazingly writen essay. I am a women and I think (this is only my opinion) being a women is harder. If you have ever watched any of those tiktoks where men are testing period pain simulator and can’t physically move after they get to like level 5 and then the women tries it and thinks and 8-10 is more accurate, you’d know period pain is not what you would expect as a man but, this does not mean that being a man is not difficult. Overall, BEING A HUMAN IS DIFFICULT.
Scarlett Ahrens • Aug 12, 2023 at 11:35 pm
Girls do have it harder cuz we have to deal with more stuff then men have to in there whole life
Lachie • Aug 11, 2023 at 3:28 am
So your not going to talk about any of men’s hardships at all, not even look at both sides of the story?
Daliah • Sep 28, 2023 at 10:55 pm
Let her be, she’s saying that boys also have their struggles she’s not saying that boys don’t have struggles .That’s her opinion so you should respect it, i’m not trying to say this in a rude way.
Vishnu k • Jan 29, 2024 at 4:46 am
No. She is just downplaying Mans struggle. Thats sexist. If a Man said that you will be calling him sexist.
Gaven Drew • Oct 24, 2023 at 1:47 pm
(a man here) I know right. When women are sad everyone is all over them but men are told to suck it up. the suicide rate for men is 3x higher than women. when we look for a significant other (SO), most of us don’t pick out every little detail like most women do, “he’s too thin, he’s too big, he isn’t muscular” etc, also tieing in another point that men on social media has to be hot and muscular.
Kerrigan • Jul 25, 2023 at 5:34 pm
I agree with most of these points ! Women speaking as in bodily functions and our sexual parts have it a lot worse overall. I think that there’s too many variables in life however to decide which one has it worse ultimately because everyone has different experiences regardless of gender. I do however believe that woman do get put through the wringer more when it comes to stress , depression , body issues, and things along those lines. I don’t think people take into account how periods can seriously be anywhere from mildy annoying to completely awful , then pregnancy and labor are their own monster. We however by science which who knows if it’s true or not have less likeness of getting some chronic illnesses than men but we are more prone to autoimmune diseases which can be miserable on top of living to be older than men. Which everyone would say is a good thing and an advantage but not necessarily. Women’s bodies naturally go through more because we are built that way. I know a lot of people wanna be like “ oh well mens suicide rates are higher” but women are twice as likely to be diagnosed with depression and anxiety disorders in their life. Men’s reason for committing suicide more I believe is being too stubborn to seek help and letting it build up until the suicide decision is made. Women suffer more mentally but they also get help for it sooner and find better ways to manage it rather than men. So generally yes I do believe females have it slightly more difficult but that’s with consideration of just major life events that can happen, not personal experiences.
Camille • Dec 23, 2023 at 9:23 pm
And the embarrassment of starting period during class. Also shopping and keeping up appearances are more expensive!
Gor • Jun 4, 2023 at 2:48 pm
Exactly. Being women is the hardest thing.
Vishnu k • Jan 29, 2024 at 4:47 am
No it isnt. Thats subjective.
Prasiddha • May 4, 2023 at 11:41 am
So the fact is that the answer depends how we look at at. If the girl is born into poverty she must either struggle to finish school, marry a rich successful husband, or find another way. Same thing for men. The truth is Men and women are alike in a lot of ways. We both want someone who will love us, are dependable, and are willing to support each other through tough times. Sure pregnancy is hard but if you have a husband who loves and supports you through it, then it may not be as hard. So it doesn’t matter about who has it harder but about making sure we stick together and that requires patience and discipline on both sides of the spectrum.
Julio • Mar 5, 2023 at 4:49 pm
I was reading these comments and just thought of something….why do we gotta compare who has it harder? That’s why people need each other…to make things easier, to have that support system in place. It don’t matter whether females go through pregnancy and periods and whether or not men have higher suicide rates and have to tough through their emotions. Everyone has their own struggles. And watch. Someone will only read part of this comment and try to be argue with me when I haven’t given anything to argue with.
Elouise • Aug 18, 2022 at 7:11 pm
This is totally 100% wrong,as a woman myself,men definitely have it harder than us and that’s just a fact that im not making up, if you look at the suicide rates and still try to tell me women have it harder than men then I have no words for you..
allyssa • Sep 13, 2022 at 11:05 am
ummm okay well suicide rates is one thing out of 20 things that girls go through
Jonas • Oct 6, 2022 at 4:05 pm
correction “stats show that WOMEN are more satisfied with life.
Vishnu k • Jan 29, 2024 at 4:49 am
Alyssa youre just a misandrist. Nothing else. Men have harder because their struggles are even portrayed as mockery.
Max W • Mar 30, 2022 at 8:07 am
The hardest part of being a man is the assumption that you should be strong, and not show emotion. Sometimes, guys do get sad more often but they must live up to the same standards of other men. Perhaps sometimes we want to cry on our bro’s shoulder, but obviously they wouldn’t accept that, society wouldn’t accept that, and compared to if girls did that it’s a completely different story.
So instead most guys just go and hide in their bedrooms, trying to avoid any contact, and it just makes everything 5x worse.
Kyle Y • Feb 28, 2022 at 11:37 pm
Maybe…. both genders have it equally as hard. There are expectations and standards set on each gender. You could argue where women have it harder, and where men have it harder. However to make an ultimate assumption that women have it harder is really just plain stupid. This article is not only biased and is filled with personal opinions, but it honestly is pretty sexist as well.
Celeste Martinez • Mar 9, 2022 at 3:47 pm
I hate it how most guys think that ladies can’t do half the stuff guys do.
Solangy Gomez • Apr 30, 2022 at 6:02 pm
You used the word maybe. Meaning, you’re not sure. Personally, I think a woman’s life is WAY harder than a men’s life. This is not just because of what I personally think or because I am a girl, but even men agree with me. Here are some more reasons.
1. Men are stronger than women by 33%
2. Women have more negative emotions
3. Women get paid less than men do but still work harder than them by 10%
4. Girls get colder than men do
5. Girls get pregnant
6. Girls get their period
(etc)
Girls, please help me explain!?
Josh • Jul 15, 2023 at 7:41 am
yea but girls are way more judgmental i mean i cant explain it but this can…. girls at sleep over: i hate how boys are so judgmental… also the girls at the sleep over: i want a man that makes six figures.. is strong and handsome. i mean as a man we all have problems but think of this if your on the road and you see a girl with a gun in her hand and a dead body by her your gonna think she was defending herself..
katrtina • Aug 26, 2023 at 12:30 pm
honestly that last part is entirly not true. Maybe that is your opinion but you can not speak for people of all genders like that if i saw that i would take all situations into consideration.
noah • Oct 18, 2023 at 12:32 pm
women working harder than men by 10 % , lol, that’s not even a fact. way too objective.
Camille • Dec 23, 2023 at 9:27 pm
Girls have more needs and have to buy more things to survive! Girls are constantly sexualised and judged by their weight and appearance. Girls are bullied more!
Vishnu k • Jan 29, 2024 at 4:52 am
These things you mentioned are respected by Men. So shut up. What a sexist statement. No Man is here downplaying Male struggle and you women are worst and petty when it comes to behaviour and honour. Just because you see Men are laughing and enjoying doesnt mean they have it easy. Men are only loved when he provides. His value is He need to build it.
Abigail A • May 30, 2022 at 1:26 pm
I do not think this is being rude or sextist because it has many different responses why this is true but u are one of them that this this is a bad response. I just think she is trying to stand out how we are equal that we go through enough pain but girls may go through more because we go through pregnancy and shark week ?. I get guys do have to hide there pain but that is because they have never tried to not hide there pain and see what is does for them
Joline • Jul 11, 2023 at 4:25 am
Exactly!
Harvey • Jan 31, 2022 at 9:07 am
Then why are 80% of suicides male? I think men have it harder due to the fact men naturally provide and protect their family, which can be very stressful. Also men get a lot of negative reactions from other people when they share their emotions, which is very hard to deal with. Men also naturally have to earn their way to a woman, while women just sit back and decide weather the man is worthy of her or not. Men are also the victims of most crimes. so in conclusion women unarguably have it harder with their bodily functions but I definitely believe men have it harder overall.
Gus • Jan 13, 2022 at 12:30 am
My thoughts are that you can’t say which gender has it worse because you haven’t been on both sides right you have to physically experience both sides of each body advantages and disadvantages. Though you do confuse me you say women go through bodily changes that impact them on a daily basis, but men do as well.
Liv • Sep 17, 2023 at 12:28 pm
I agree 100% with you. I also think that her statement about sexualization is bogus because men get sexualized just as much as women. She states that women get sexualized through social media, magazines, and out in public. Men do too?! Men get sexualized ALL the time. It’s not a fair claim at all.
Jonathan • Jan 12, 2022 at 2:11 pm
But men were more likely to go in war, most men commit suicide, men are less likely to receive emotional support because they are taught to be a men, men are loved under the condition that they provide something, men have way more false rape accusations and men have way harder overall in life. Just because your a madame and you recognize your struggles as a women doesn’t mean that you guys have it harder
oliver • Jan 14, 2022 at 7:51 am
all the rescpect to you! a freaking king you are man!!!
Rebecca • Jul 19, 2022 at 10:35 pm
People are all fighting.. geez. I personally go on the middle mostly, but due to history, I’m a bit more on the girls side.even if we work as much as men, we still get paid less. Imagine having to take care of children on your own? Females have been doing that for millenia, sure there are some househusbands but it’s mostly females. It’s mostly tiring on behalf of my mum. She quit her job JUST to raise and learn from my Nan how to raise me.
Rebecca • Jul 19, 2022 at 10:36 pm
Not to say men don’t have their struggles but.. yeah.
Vishnu k • Jan 29, 2024 at 4:58 am
Rebecca thats just your sexist thoughts. The worse thing is Men are expected to take insults. women arent forced to do anything. Thats not the case with Men. You women in the comments are just sexist misandrist garbage people. Just because society dont talk about Mens struggle doesnt mean Men have easier. You people should step out of victimhood.
Ilyanna • Jan 20, 2022 at 10:08 am
I agree that yes because we are women we know how it feels and we may not necessarily understand a mans point of view, men do have it easier than most women. You guys can get jobs easier and actually do get paid more than us. On top of that most problems you guys have such as emotional stages because you guys feel as if you can’t have emotions, that is your decision. You are choosing to not express it. No one is stopping you but your own ego. We have it harder because jobs are harder, we are expected to do everything around the house, we produce the kids, and when we do have something a man has, we are seen as a try hard. I do believe men have it very very difficult in the world, that is correct, however I do believe women have it harder because the world has made it out to be a mans country.
Harvey • Jan 31, 2022 at 9:18 am
Firstly if a women works the same amount as a man they will be paid the same amount, that is a fact. Secondly it’s not our ego stopping us from sharing our emotions, it’s the way some people react to our emotions. Thirdly even if anything u said was true how can u compare that to going to war, handling emotions alone, Suicide rate being much higher, protecting and providing for a family, being the victims of most crimes by a mile stone, far more likely to be incarcerated, having to earn ur way to a women while the women sits back and decides if she likes u or not, people caring more when a man treats a woman badly than visa versa and the list goes on…
Jo • Feb 18, 2022 at 12:39 am
EXACTLY. Its really funny how men think they have it hard, I get made fun of because I play football. They expect me to sit back and have kids, but what if I don’t want to have kids, what if I don’t want to get married. Women are expected to be seen and not heard. Plus have you ever heard of mankind? Yeah apparently that’s how we relate all genders, but it literally is relating to just men. We give birth to the next generation, we have stupid periods every month, and go through puberty earlier than men. Women are more likely to have depression. And nearly a third of women have been taken advantage of.
Kyle Y • Feb 28, 2022 at 11:32 pm
But men do have it hard, so do women. It is a really stupid assumption to say that men don’t have it hard. (You stated “Its really funny how men think they have it hard). It is terrible that you get made fun of for doing football but the same applies to men that do cheerleading, softball, etc. In addition, you are not forced to have children and you do not have to get married. That is a false claim. In fact, after women get pregnant, it is their choice whether they want to keep the baby or not. Men do not get to have a say in this, but they do have to pay a large sum of money to child support if the women chooses to keep the baby. Another false fact is women being more likely to be taken advantage of or having depression. Women are more likely to be diagnosed with depression because men, due to societal pressures, do not talk about their emotions and therefore can not be diagnosed with depression. This also doesn’t line up with the fact that men commit suicide 3-4x more than women. If men got depressed less than women why would they commit more suicide? The “being taken advantage” was a survey where women could easily lie and play victim. Therefore, it isn’t very reliable. I do agree that women have it harder physically, but in general, I think that nowadays men have it harder than women when it comes to societal expectations and standards for mental health. You could argue all day which gender has it harder, but at the end of the day both genders have it equally as hard.
Cedar • May 1, 2022 at 10:11 am
the fact is each gender has their own share of problems given to them. however r just in different scenarios. women may have it harder physical and men may have it just has hard in societally
lean • Jul 15, 2023 at 8:03 am
you said it all brother
Adam Kasper • Jul 19, 2022 at 11:56 pm
Men work more hours and are less agreeable when it comes to salary we also pursue higher paying careers. If women get paid less then men then why isn’t every company hiring only woman? Men don’t talk about our emotions because most women will lose attraction to us if we express our feelings.Unless somebody dies you can’t cry in front of a women. Woman don’t want somebody they see as weak. 80% of suicides are men. The average man’s dating standards are anyone they can get while an average woman’s standards are extremely high while having unlimited options. Woman have it harder physically men have it harder in society. It is not a man’s world it is a man who created value’s world. Average men are invisible to most woman.
Nathan • Aug 18, 2022 at 10:31 am
I mean saying that men don’t show emotion because of how women react is lowkey what men hear from toxic men. These women don’t tell you that, the men do. Now a days women do want a man who’s emotionally available. They don’t lose attraction for you a lot actually love that you trust them enough to open up. As a guy I’ve had more men make fun of me for crying and being upset than women. More women have been there for me in those times and would recommend me to resources. Men have constantly told me to ‘man up’. We don’t support each other enough on our mental health so that’s not really something we can blame women on. 80% of men committing suicide is sad but that’s due to the lack of expressing emotion due to toxic masculinity. I just think we need to hold our community accountable. With dating I noticed a lot of men talk about attractive women when they say that women can get any man they want. If it was an ugly girl that would be different. Attractive men and women can get anyone most likely. People on the outside have it harder. That’s not to say I’m invalidating anyone’s feelings. When you grow older and do research and actually talk to women you realize a lot of what I’m saying is true. Before women meet a guy they have to do stuff themselves and a lot are capable of it. I used to be a stage where I said exactly this, I didn’t even experience half of what I said men go through. Then I grew up and realized everything that happens. Yes with women people are more caring and attentive but thats the patriarchy and toxic masculinity to blame.
Joline • Jul 11, 2023 at 4:45 am
Lemme just say, THANK YOU for agreeing that saying all that! Since none of the men in my life see my point of view, it’s kinda hard not to lose faith in men. I agree 100% with your comment and thanks for commenting that.
shina lit • Oct 14, 2022 at 2:58 am
NO Men should not just stand up for them self’s and say that they have it hard, because they don’t…period. Do men get pregnant? No. do men have periods? No. do men get payed less and get more pressure? guess what men? why are you always telling us to smile? that is not your decision. just because your a man and you guys are always trying to prove something that isn’t there i hope you remember that FEMALE IS FUTURE NOT MALE be more thankful that woman created you and did most of the work NOT the male. men are more accepted and seem to be women images of weakness and that is not OK. So many men are sexist towards women, I mean woman can now go to war, so no complaining about how woman don’t do any fighting there is no reason for men to be complaining. simply women have it so much harder.
ligma ballz • Feb 1, 2022 at 10:00 am
exactly
big • Mar 8, 2022 at 8:12 pm
same